I Want You To Want Me - Agnes Callard (UChicago)

Speaker: Agnes Callard

Abstract: Consider the world that includes: dating, breakups, crushes and jealousy; the magnetic pull of attraction to someone who you know might not be good for you; the devastation of being rejected by them; falling in love; the distinctive experiences of “romance”—romantic evenings, romantic gestures, the deadening feeling of knowing that the romance is gone. I argue that what unifies all these phenomena is a paradox about reciprocal wanting: If I want you to want me, and you want me to want you, do we want each other? Grappling with the reciprocity paradox is what makes an encounter, or relationship, or mental state, erotic. I explain why sex is erotic.

Date & time

Thu 01 Sep 2022, 2:00pm to 3:30pm


Auditorium, Level 1, RSSS building, 146 Ellery Crescent, Acton, ACT 2601


Agnes Callard (University of Chicago)


Sarita Rosenstock


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